I mention it a lot in comments, and it occurs to me it’s worthy of a post, since I know a lot of not-contraceptive-using Christians IRL and online. But essentially part of the fallout from the WHEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE DIVORCE IS SO GREAT epidemic in the 1970s and even 1980s is that people who are 35-50 now were told by older people who’d been burnt that the problem wasn’t marrying young, it was not party animal-ing young together. And with contraception, this was now on the table.
The belief among quite a few older folks is that marrying young and then jumping into “adulting” and parenting all at once was the source of their or their divorced friends/neighbors/relatives’ woe. For all the talk of how women/men are encouraged to live it up singly during their 20s, there is definitely a pro-marriage strain among evangelical and conservative-living secular people that living it up ~together~ and then settling down as older, financially solid boring types is the way to keep a marriage together past when the kids are 18, or even just school-aged.
It is something I didn’t really notice among secular types, although it was certainly there. It started jumping out at me when we got married and started hanging around married Christians who did it before age 25 and seeing this play out over the years. And then, of course, it’s not uncommon online either.
For both religious and health reasons we’re not really on Team Contraception, but I do think it’s important to know why people make use of it, because there are people still trying to live out the promises and claims that it would help marriages stay love matches and all that.