Back to the lion’s den.

We’ve had some crazy ups and downs living an agrarian life, but now we’re going back to leafy, 75-97% white suburbia.  Yes, the rest is “mixed race” and “Asian”, depending on the suburb.

The full transition (sale, buy, move) probably won’t happen until the next calendar year, but it means a chance to keep everyone healthy (because buh-bye rural commute and rural mom commute, both completely health decimating), leisure time for the parents and unstructured play time for the kids, and just more opportunities for organic social life because it’ll be a lot more people even though we still get to have “acreage”.

We both had a view of rural life that was covered in nostalgia and we’re a lot more clear eyed now.  So another journey in our life together begins.


8 thoughts on “Back to the lion’s den.

  1. We both had a view of rural life that was covered in nostalgia and we’re a lot more clear eyed now.

    You were honest about your experience, and it was refreshing to hear your perspective. FWIW, it goes to show to have the “farm experience,” it takes a full-time income.


  2. Very nice!

    This reminds me of a book I’m rereading. It’s Susie Lloyd’s “Please Don’t Drink the Holy Water!” which is a collection of cute Catholic homeschooling mom pieces. I see it came out in 2004, which would have been when my oldest was 2. I’m not sure when I got it and read it, but it reads totally differently to me now then it did the first time I read it, when I was probably still entertaining the conservative homeschool fantasy. I haven’t homeschooled (just tried to keep several big kids wholesomely employed during the summer), but the book reads very differently to me now. I see things between the lines that I didn’t previously.

    Likewise, you can read a book like The Egg and I and not really know what it means–until you do it yourself.

    It’s very wasteful in terms of effort, but there’s no replacement for experience.

    There’s an unfortunately a difference between intellectually knowing something and really, truly knowing it.


  3. Yay! Moving is a pain but it sounds like it will be more than worth it.

    We both had a view of rural life that was covered in nostalgia and we’re a lot more clear eyed now. So another journey in our life together begins.

    I have misty eyed memories of summers on my grandparents’ farm. We considered rural life for a while, but we know it won’t work for us.


  4. When you say “rural commute” are you talking about the commute your husband made for work, or the commute in general to get basic needs and goods? Like doctor’s visits, getting gas, etc.?


    • The basic work commute. Even though we had access to alternative transit, it was not possible to use it at times that fit with his work schedule. So we came out here thinking he’d rarely drive all the way in, but it became his norm simply to be at work when his coworkers were. And 15 hours a week of driving on his end just for work was not something we expected to have to account for. We planned around more like 4-5 total.


  5. Ahh yes. The problem with modern rural life: there is nothing there…

    A small town/village is rural, without the hell commute to get anywhere. But even there, there needs to be employment available.


    • In my experience, people who believe rural living is the end-all-be-all will always find exceptions to the rule. I live around such people, who are more than willing to drive a 1 hour or 1.5 hr long commute from a rural area to work. “If the money is good,” and “take the money and run” (or in this case, drive) are the typical responses to a long commute. It goes back to the fact that most rural towns or villages aren’t walkable (and therefore, are structured with cars in mind and not people), and in some cases they’re worse than the smaller cities or suburbs.


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