Recently the Christian manosphere has decided to blame women for the very high ages for first marriage. They do this every few months, here’s a roundup of the latest with commentary afterwards.
Shorter Dalrock: Doug Wilson thinks lazy manbabies are keeping sweet Christian women from getting married at 22! Joke’s on him, there are no Godly Christian women! Churchian Carousel Bandits are keeping SUPER NICE TOTALLY MATURE AND GREAT CHRISTIAN GUYS WHO TOTALLY ARE MATURE AND STUFF from getting married at 22! Additional Dalrock supplement to above, same premise.
Shorter Donalgraeme: I’m going to assert that later marriage is all womens’ fault and I assure you I will back it up with data at some unspecified point in the future. But in the meantime, since most of my commenters agree with me, IT MUST BE TROOOOOOOO.
Anyway, the marriage issue is not solely the fault of naughty women and their hypergamy. The evangelicals marrying young delay childbearing 5-10 years. So they nominally marry early but then have kids late just like the people who delay marriage into their late 20s and early 30s. This masks a lot of the manbaby stuff as well as the carousel issue. Men are being more immature on average, and also in addition, women behave poorly and are immature and unrealistic as well. Both pieces are true, not just one side of it.
And because childbearing happens at the same late 20s and early 30s point in time for most births these days, a lot of women figure that there’s no point in marrying young since they couldn’t have the kids right away anyhow.
We’re back to real vs. imaginary status again. You get nothing marrying young and having kids right away except a lot of hassle and headache from people around you for being foolish with your childrens’ futures. Marry young but hold off a few years, and suddenly things are fine, you were prepared. Suddenly you might be worthy of a tuition check or ten from one set of grandparents.
Our kids are going into private school and every single one goes on at length about how you might want to hit up gramma and grandpa for that cash. But of course, you also can’t have eight kids that way either, maybe not even four or three.
There is a lot of blaming women and parents (by which we mean MOM) for later marriage and childbearing, but basic needs are increasingly impossible to meet for people having kids right now at young ages. This is why even single mothers overwhelmingly have a kid, not kids plural.
And as I already linked, there are Christians marrying before 25, you just have to admit that this is where the husbands and wives are (for Protestants anyhow). But for some reason, going where the young marriage is happening in America is not something any of these folks want to do….
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