She not only admitted to having household help as a SAHM, but she was completely matter of fact about it, as if it was just obvious she’d need support to run her household. This is not at all American, but it could be if she were First Lady and women could have the model of a housewife who was unashamed of having domestic help and considered it part of her essential toolkit in managing the household.
Contrast her openness about household help with Michelle Obama, who has called herself “Mom in Chief” in her new role as SAHM, but utterly downplayed moving her mother into the White House to provide childcare gratis (so, for the last eight years). One can find this information in the Wikipedia article on Mrs. Obama, but from the horse’s lips, not so much. No, from the horse’s lips there is dissembling about having one of Obama’s female relatives provide live in help when the two Obama children were infant and toddler aged. That female relation was the “babysitter we lost” Michelle Obama has alluded to in the past. They lost her due to her wanting to receive, well, money for babysitting. Michelle Obama is very clear on that point at least, that they didn’t want to pay for childcare while both of them worked. All of this is much more sadly and typically American, downplaying free help from relatives, not wanting to pay normal wages for “watching babies”, and simultaneously flapping hands in the air about “the high cost of childcare for hard working women”.
Modelling matters, and I know what kind of SAHM model I’d prefer to see normalized. I’d love to witness the seeds of a new American ideal of housewife, one who really is a domestic administrator whose role warrants both status and the right to delegate tasks to support people (which would mean working for such housewives would be seen as legitimate work). That would be lovely and we could have that in Melania Trump as First Lady. A housewife can dream.