- “I SAHM because daycare costs“
- “Breastfeeding is cheaper than formula because BOOBS R FREE”
- “Attachment parenting is cheaper because ALL BABIES LOVE SLINGS”
- “Cooking at home is cheaper and more nutritious every single time!”
There are plenty more, but they all boil down to “Cheaping out is better because it makes me feel better about not having moneys.”
Needless to say, this is not as compelling an argument as people think. I don’t think people who make these arguments about cheapness being superior parenting are conscious of the implication, but I can assure them, that’s what average people are thinking. They are thinking “defensive about being POOOOOOOOORRRRRRRRRRR”. They are not thinking such people (disproportionately conservatives) are brilliant geniuses for not spending money on their beloved children.
A while back I looked up food stamp data and found that (proxied) conservative families were avoiding meat so they could avoid food stamp use, while non-conservative families were getting food stamps so they could have meat regularly. Yeah, people don’t think you’re superior or better or wiser for avoiding access to high-quality protein out of ego-defense issues. Tangentially, the lethargy that low protein causes probably makes having a larger family easier in fairly obvious ways, but that’s just a side effect.