So I got diverted from my original 2014 reading list by yet another bit of old writing that doesn’t quite match up to the myths around frontier and pioneer folks.
It’s some letters a homesteading woman from about 100 years ago wrote to a former employer she’d maintained cordial relations with. She’d worked for the employer as a laundress. What is fascinating about the letters is that yet again, she didn’t do all the work alone, but routinely had other women helping her, or she traveled to help them. It is clearly normalized in these letters for the women to go around to each other and spend days or weeks assisting with, well, homesteading for each other, along with the demands of hospitality. When parties and social events are undertaken, it’s just assumed that everyone (including men) will pitch in to help the individual household tasked with hosting duties. There is, despite the fact that they all live ten and twenty and thirty miles away from each other, not actually that much rugged individualism.
Also, this woman’s body broke down having lots of babies (six, more or less, according to other information about her life elsewhere on the internet) and working hard. The letters Mrs. Stewart writes detail multiple instances of being unwell and struggling physically due to pregnancies (and infant deaths/miscarriages) and the work of homesteading. Her marriage was a mail-order marriage, but it lasted and as noted above produced quite a few surviving little bundles of joy out of it.
Mrs. Stewart promotes homesteading aggressively, feeling strongly that however hard that labor is, it still beats being a laundress in an urban metro area in the early 20th century. She really felt that women should get out there and grab a piece of land for themselves, with or without a husband. That sort of feminine self-determination is American to the core, being in regular currency prior to the 19th amendment. I continue to have my own preconceptions about traditional America rocked by the knowledge that everything old is new again. And in this case what’s old is American women waving a flag of securing financial independence through earning income rather than marriage.
It’s a short read, plus she’s a capable and engaging writer. There’s a reason her employer sent the letters to be published in a magazine.