Though it seems inconceivable to many men, there are sometimes women who simply aren’t expected to marry and yet ultimately do. One of the reasons “nice girls” or “Christian girls” or “nice Christian girls” have a hard time getting married is that some of them were thrown away by their subculture. They were never expected to marry. The reasons are usually not related to sexual practice, for such women aren’t even really thought of as possessing a real sexual impulse. They are considered freemartins, girl-shaped but essentially sexless and only valuable for the services and/or money they can provide to their immediate family or local community.
It’s interesting to me that so many refuse to accept the reality before them of mostly celibate single women working at modest jobs, giving much of the money to family members directly and often also volunteering tons of unpaid labor at church/school/etc. They are tossed aside and not taken seriously except as mere labor/resources.
It’s hard for such women to marry, especially since they often never really learn that they were thrown away, or find it out too late to respond. Yet, some do, and then the difficulty of social interaction with people who are weirdly offended at such women not being totally available anymore becomes a straining point in the marriage. Not a fatal one, but still quite real.
On the other hand, since such women are given no useful advice on catching a husband, they recognize that it is quite obviously God’s will if they do happen to marry and are correspondingly most excellent wife material. So their marriages can handle the social stresses that come when their labor is desired but no longer available for exploitation.