The false choice between SAHM and Career Woman

If taken seriously, the housewife’s work is itself a “career” and should be accorded the necessary support as one would expect for any serious, decades-long work.  It’s further a false choice because having kids young can mean having an outside the home career in early middle age, as was an option among quite a few of the very women shoving their girls out of the home these days.

In older times, as well, the lower tiers of what is now thought of by Americans as upper-middle class or upper-class women often held ceremonial positions within royal households that were equivalent to careers even though they didn’t require working outside the household, because household management at all class tiers was taken much more seriously than is the case in the modern, supposedly classless American society.

This post further explores the idea that women working for money is not incompatible with a future life of housewifery.  This also goes back to traditional understandings of hierarchy and authority, and remembering that women are not supposed to submit to just any man anywhere because that is not itself a properly ordered understanding of the intersections of authority and hierarchy.

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One thought on “The false choice between SAHM and Career Woman

  1. “If taken seriously, the housewife’s work is itself a “career” and should be accorded the necessary support as one would expect for any serious, decades-long work.”

    I completely agree with this. I just wish more people would see it that way. Running a household efficiently and smoothly added to the fact that this needs balanced with maintaining good, loving relationships for all within the household, is important work. This I find is especially so with conservative households. There just seems to be more life happening in these homes because of the focus on the importance of family and community. There is more interest in learning the domestic arts, more educating and book reading whether homeschooling is going on or not, more likely to offer hospitality, more organized family prayer or religious activities and so on.

    Some of the more modern families with both parents working, kids in daycare of some sort, running to various activities around work schedules, make home nothing more than a place to eat something quick and sleep. All the activity, which is not to say that some of it isn’t enriching in some ways, is focused away from the home as if that is where real life is and the home is just a pit stop in the midst of it.

    I do agree too that young, unmarried girls shouldn’t hesitate to find paid work even if they plan to marry and have a family some day. Most anything they learn in paid employment from business, the medical field, the service industry, finance industry, or education can provide them with skills that are translatable to household management and child care..

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